Photo Exhibition ‘Reframing Aging’
Through November 28
Berkeley Public Library North Branch
1170 The Alameda, Berkeley, CA 94707
Friday the 13th of October from 6 – 8PM. All welcome!
- REFRAMING AGING UPCOMING EXHIBIT LOCATIONS
- About Reframing Aging by Nancy Rubin and Cynthia Overbeck Bix
- Liz Raymer
- Margie Pezzaglia
- Pat Sakai
- Peter Sussman
- Russ Ellis
- Steve Toby
- Sue Bender
- Troy Duster
- REFRAMING AGING UPCOMING EXHIBIT LOCATIONSDOE Library through March 2nd, 2018University of California
Berkeley, CA 94720-6000See pictures of the exhibit at the DOE Library and read this article (link > https://alumni.berkeley.edu/
california-magazine/just-in/20) 18-01-08/reframing-aging-exhib it-features-reflections-gettin g-older
- About Reframing Aging by Nancy Rubin and Cynthia Overbeck Bix
What does it mean to be “old?”
The standard images are familiar: a grandma in a rocking chair, wistfully turning the pages of a photo album; retirees with time on their hands, spinning yarns at the donut shop about past glories.
But what are real people over 70 up to these days? We wanted to find out.
We photographed and interviewed twelve men and women, ranging in age from 70 to 96, all of whom are members of Ashby Village. Turns out, those standard images are seriously in need of an update.
The people we met continually surprised us. “I’m a party girl!” exclaimed Margie, the 96-year-old. Liz, a once-and-future protester, aged 87, told us that although she couldn’t tolerate getting arrested any more (handcuffs hurt too much), she still attends protests using her walker. At 76, Peter sometimes needs a wheelchair, but that doesn’t stop him from shooting photos, flexing his well-honed journalistic muscles, and traveling to Paris. Ninety-three-year old Jeanne regularly drives herself to UC Berkeley to teach a class in music cognition. You get the idea. . .
Meeting and talking with the people featured in this exhibition has been surprising, revealing, funny, thought provoking, and absolutely delightful. Each of them is a vibrant, highly individual spirit. Each is active in his or her particular way, be it creative, organizational, spiritual, physical, or social. None of them spend much time looking back—they’re looking ahead with enthusiasm, curiosity, and optimism.
Not only do these people inspire us to reframe our image of what it means to be old, but they’re also models of how to live well at any age. As painter Lisa says, “I think we have to do things with gusto!”
It has been a privilege to photograph and interview the twelve Ashby Village members featured in this exhibition, and we thank them for generously sharing their thoughts and experiences with us.
Thanks also to graphic designer and Ashby Village volunteer Maria Reeves, who donated her time and expertise to design the layouts for this exhibition.
And thank you to Manuela Pegoraro and other Ashby Village staff members for helping to make the idea of this exhibition a reality.
Nancy Rubin and Cynthia Bix
Nancy Rubin’s photography exhibition, Faces of Fatherhood, is currently on display at Kaiser Richmond and has been in libraries in Marin, Contra Costa and Alameda Counties. Her work has also been shown in several local galleries. She is a contributing photographer for Berkeleyside and CAA (California Alumni Association). She created Humans of Berkeley and the Bay Area, which appears on social media.
Cynthia Overbeck Bix has written numerous books and articles for adults and children, on subjects including social history, natural sciences, and the arts, for such diverse publishers as Sunset Books (Oxmoor House), Sierra Club Books, National Geographic Explorer Magazine, Harry N. Abrams, and Twenty-First Century Books. Her personal essays have appeared in the San Francisco Chronicle and in various magazines.
A special THANK YOU to Ashby Village volunteer Maria Reeves who took care of the exhibition design.
Ashby Village is a vibrant nonprofit that connects members with each other and with the resources they need to stay active, independent and fulfilled—just like the people featured in this exhibition. Ashby Village members rely on one another—and on an extensive volunteer pool, screened service providers and partnerships with local agencies, groups and businesses. Ashby Village launched in 2010 and serves Berkeley, Albany, Kensington, El Cerrito, Emeryville, and Parts of Oakland.
Nancy and Cynthia are two of the over 300 volunteers who are part of Ashby Village.
- Troy Duster
“I don’t think people experience aging as a long, slow process. They experience it like a snap of the fingers. It’s a sudden jump. You say, ‘What happened?'”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Writing, speaking, making ceramics
CAREER: Author; Chancellor’s Professor of Sociology and Founder, Institute for the Study of Social Change, UC Berkeley; Silver Professor of Sociology and Director of the Institute for the History of the Production of Knowledge, NYU
An intellectual force to be reckoned with, Troy is nevertheless relaxed, friendly, and easy to talk to. His far-ranging views on everything from ethics to aging are delivered with conviction and a healthy dose of humor.
My retirement hasn’t been the kind where it’s just—click—you’re either floundering or off into a whole new world. I am retired, but I continue to do a lot of what I did during my teaching years. My early work, including my first book, The Legislation of Morality: Law, Drugs, and Moral Judgment, was all around the social, biological, and political aspects of opiate addiction. Then my focus shifted into examining the influence of social and political values on genetic research, and I served on the National Advisory Council for the Human Genome Project. Now, I spend a few days a week at the university and engage with colleagues and students. I am still writing articles and op-eds and giving lectures. But I’ve read my last blue book, and I’m not unhappy about that!
These days, I’d rather sit at the pottery wheel. I make ceramics—bowls, cups, and so forth. I’ve been doing this for over 50 years. My early pieces were stoneware, but now I’m working with porcelain.
There are so many ways that people experience aging. Some people feel that aging is no fun, that aging takes it all out of you, instead of the flip side of it—gaining wisdom, and those positive things. For myself, I’m feeling no sense of disconnection from the world.
- Sue Bender
“Leave room for the unexpected.”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Writer
CAREER: Author; ceramics artist; family therapist
Sue’s gentle nature shines out brightly from dark, intense eyes. Her hands, slim and graceful, have written three memorable books and formed countless objects of clay, each with its own quirky charm.
Writing my book Plain and Simple: A Woman’s Journey to the Amish came about because I walked into a shop and saw some patchwork quilts. My heart started pounding. I asked the owner, “Who made those?” and he said, “The Amish.” And then a voice said, “Go and live with the Amish.” That’s how my journey began. It wasn’t easy for me to trust that voice that didn’t seem to make sense. It still doesn’t, but that is my ongoing challenge: Doubt if you must, but persist. It’s the persisting that matters.
When I write, I scribble on hundreds of little scraps of paper. Then I sit on the floor or at a table, and I just move the patches around. Sometimes I can see a pattern or a theme. I love the idea of a life of patches. Patches are very human. And we need to be respectful of our patches and to accept not having an answer. It’s important to get out of the way and allow some things to come in.
When I made ceramics, I just shaped the pieces with my hands. I tried using a wheel, but it was so uninteresting. I didn’t want the pieces to be perfect. I’d rather that things are lumpy and bumpy. I’m a poster child for the imperfect!
Doing creative work is always a dance between faith and doubt. If I could give people a message, it’s this: Be kind to yourself. It takes courage to know who you are and what you want.
- Steve Toby
“You have to find your corner of the vineyard—what you do well, what you enjoy doing.”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Native Here Nursery and community volunteer; LGBTQ advocate; choral singer; stamp collector
CAREER: Peace Corps volunteer; teacher; computer specialist; therapist
A gentle soul, Steve speaks with wry humor as well as quiet conviction on topics that matter deeply to him. These days, his focus is on ecology and stewardship of the environment. As a transgender person, he is committed to building community among LGBTQ elders.
My life in these later years has opened up in the sense that now I’m retired, I can go after the things I really enjoy doing, like singing in the Contra Costa Chorale and doing volunteer work.
About ten years ago, I started volunteering at Native Here Nursery in Tilden Park, Berkeley. The second time I went up there to volunteer, I said, “These are my people.” I just sensed that these were the kinds of people I enjoy being with. At first I went once a week and potted plants. Eventually I was asked to be the Plant Fair Coordinator and to join the board.
I also volunteer at Ashby Village. As a transgender elder, I’ve worked with other Ashby Village members to form the LGBTQQA group. Our goals are to facilitate visibility for trans elders in our community and to address the issue of appropriate care for aging people. All the same, I don’t consider myself an activist. To me, doing volunteer work is its own reward.
I’m 76, but I don’t feel old. I live very much in the present. I’ve never been a person to dwell too much on the past or on the future.
- Russ Ellis
“We’re just making it up as we go along.”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Sculptor; painter; social activist
CAREER: Professor of Architecture and Vice-Chancellor, UC Berkeley; Professor of Sociology, Pitzer College
Russ is articulate and full of ideas that come spilling out as he speaks. His laughter is frequent and infectious. He looks back at his many-faceted life, yet fully inhabits his present life of creativity and social activism.
I’ve gone slowly towards disengagement from academia. I was always “in school,” until I retired. I don’t want to call retirement a gift—it’s an offering.
In my painting and sculpture, my goal is to contribute to this extra-verbal world that is the world of art. People who got their art degrees and are well educated are obliged to make words. But they also know about that aspect of the human consciousness and interchange that’s about images, not words. So images are what I’m working with right now.
Also, I’ve turned to images as my response to Trump’s election. I send money to the Southern Poverty Law Center and make other kinds of contributions. I don’t march any more, but that’s just about age and endurance. Instead, every day through Facebook I send out an image of my own creation. It’s my contribution to an interchange that’s right-brain rather than text.
I’m always learning. As a person, I think I’ve always been that way. You follow your nose—especially since nothing rides on it. If it’s interesting and nothing rides on it, you’re in great shape!
- Peter Sussman
“I’m a big believer in framing. How you grip something with words is how you perceive it.”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Writing (especially poetry); photography; social justice; current affairs
CAREER: Author; journalist, SF Chronicle (29 years)
Deeply thoughtful and articulate, Peter has spent a lifetime reporting on the news and the people who make it. He continues to be an outspoken advocate for social justice, while taking a philosophical view of his own mobility challenges.
As a journalist, I want to notice, to understand what it means, and to communicate so that others can share that. Those are core values for me. I don’t know if I’m a real activist. I have had projects that straddled the border between activism and journalism, where I was using journalism to uncover injustices. I found that very satisfying.
Writing poetry is new for me. I’m captivated by the way it sets expression free. I’ve written poems about aging and disability—about pain, and about expressing the inexpressible.
The frame you put around aging is the way you’re going to live—how you experience it. I’m fascinated by the way people’s perceptions of you vary according to what device you use, or whether your hair is grey. For example, I have a wheelchair because I can’t stand a lot. If I go out in my chair, people say, “Oh, have you had a setback?” If I go out with walking poles, people say,“You look great!” because walking poles are more normal.
We have no guide in this journey, aside from history, experience, perception, and how we describe it, what we choose to notice.
- Pat Sakai
“I don’t think about ‘aging’ gracefully. I try to‘live’ as gracefully as possible.”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Painting; vocal study and performance; travel; hiking, cycling, and weight training; non-profit fundraising
CAREER: Secondary school educator; Director of Continuing Education, St. Mary’s College; Training Director and Vice President, Learning and Development, various Bay Area corporations
The first thing people notice about Pat is her bright, warm energy. She has endless interest in people and loves to forge connections between them. Meanwhile, she keeps her eyes trained on new horizons.
Since leaving the workplace, I’m using my skills in important community organizations. As I cultivate donors for Berkeley Repertory Theatre and do fundraising for Ashby Village, I get great pleasure from engaging people.
While I was working I didn’t have the time, energy, or psychological space for the things I love doing now. For example, I performed choral music at UC Berkeley but later got too busy with work and family to sing. About ten years ago, I began performing with the San Francisco Choral Society. Now I’m studying voice, so I can improve and enjoy performing even more.
Another thing that’s really important to me now is painting. I’m intrigued by the creative process, and I surprise myself when I enjoy the end result. It’s so liberating to explore a level of artistic expression I haven’t experienced since my teens.
Finally, I want to keep fit and healthy as long as I can. I bicycle, hike, and train with weights—I live in my gym clothes most of the time! It’s all so I can continue doing the things I love to do.
- Margie Pezzaglia
“I’m a party girl!”
CURRENT INTERESTS: Gracious hostess; self-proclaimed party girl
CAREER: Homemaker; mother; volunteer
From her snowy, perfectly coiffed hair to her manicured red nails and classic pearl jewelry, Margie is every inch what used to be called a “real lady.” She’s gracious and friendly and always ready to smile. But this is also a lady with plenty of pizzazz.
I love life. And I love being with people! Every week I meet my friends to play bridge. And the movies—I love to go to the movies.
Ashby Village has been my new life. I go to all the activities that are offered to me—potlucks, picnics, Happy Hours. It’s wonderful.
What I find satisfying is helping other people feel good. This brings me great joy. I guess that’s why I’m living so long. I hope it makes me worthwhile. I’m grateful for that.
I have a few aches, but I never complain. And my wrinkles don’t bother me. I’m proud to be old!
I always think positively. Why, I don’t know. There’s so much I love to do, and life is too short. I’m 96! I love to party. I plan to party ’til I die!
- Liz Raymer
1930 – 2017
Career: Marriage and family therapist; probation officer
“Sometimes older people get kind of set in their ways—that’s not me!”
Liz passed away in November 2017 at the age of 87. In the spirit so typical of her, she continued to be involved in singing with her beloved Berkeley Community Chorus and in her work with Ashby Village right up until the end. A staunch liberal Democrat and political activist all her life, she was unfailingly open hearted and full of humor. Following are some of the thoughts about aging that she expressed during an interview in February 2017.
Music is really the most important thing for me these days. I sing in the Berkeley Community Chorus—I’ve been with them for twenty-seven years.
I’m not afraid to try new things, because that helps make my life richer. For example, I like the challenge of learning new music. I have a singing teacher who works with me every week. Also, I try to become familiar with innovations. I have compromised vision because of macular degeneration. So I’ve learned how to use low vision goggles, which incorporate a smartphone. The inventor—a neuroscientist at UC Berkeley—sort of made me his field developer.
I’ve been an activist in small ways over the years, in anti-war and anti-nuclear-weapons marches. The last time I was arrested, though, those tight plastic handcuffs hurt too much, so that’s not for me anymore. I did go to the recent women’s anti-Trump march in Oakland. I took a walker so I could sit down.
I’m an extrovert. I get a lot out of being with people, and I can’t imagine not spending a lot of my time with people. It energizes me.